Are You Being Too Polite?
Most of us are taught as children to say “please” and “thank you.” We learn that sharing and waiting our turn is important. I think most of us would agree that those things help us function well in society. But what happens when it’s taken too far – is that even possible? For years, researchers […]
Good Vs Nice: Pt. 2
Cognitive Distortions and Rules Meant To Be Broken In Part 1, we broke down the difference between Good and Nice. We looked at the definitions of each and how Christians often make “rules” to live by rather than living by “principles” as Jesus did. In Part 2, we will be discussing the link between “rules” […]
Complex Communication
Have you ever walked away from a conversation, especially with someone you know well, and felt disoriented or frustrated by what just happened? Maybe you were confused about what the other person was really trying to say. Or perhaps, on reflection, you realized you didn’t communicate what you truly meant to. Either way, something felt […]
Good Vs Nice: Part 1
If you had to choose, would you say you’re a good person – or a nice one? The two aren’t always the same, and confusing them can come at a cost. While not mutually exclusive, many of my Christian clients (or those who were raised in Christian environments) conflate the two or mistake one for […]
Action and Intention: A Shared Emotional Language
Does this text conversation look familiar? Jess: Hello? Jess: You haven’t texted me all day. Spencer: Sorry, busy day. Jess: Too busy to check in? So you just forgot about me? Spencer: I didn’t forget. I’ve just been working. How does not texting for a couple hours mean I forgot about you? Jess: Because I […]
What Does It Mean to Be “Head of the Household”?
Can we talk about Christian marriages for a minute? I see Christian couples regularly, and one phrase comes up over and over again: “the head of the household” seemingly referencing Ephesians 5:22-23a (NASB): Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife… The main […]
Here’s Why He May Not Open Up to You
Because you’ve limited his communication options. Oftentimes men haven’t been taught to identify their emotions so they speak in experiences or facts hoping you’ll understand their feelings based on what happened. They might tell a story about an event during the day or what a person said to them. It’s personal. It’s vulnerable. It’s an […]